Martyrdom, MotherLines and Money Blocks

By Lhamo | Apr 29, 2019 |

After twelve years of working with women and their mother-daughter relationships, I’ve realised there are not too many of us who, at some time, haven’t labelled their mother a martyr. Without perhaps knowing the larger why, we do know how, and exactly when, our mothers sacrificed themselves or manipulated their suffering, to get needs met.But there aren’t many of us who are ready to see how we too, in our own way, have been martyrs.I’m saying this for two reasons.Firstly, peri-menopause is a truth-telling initiation of fire. The great estrogen goddess within requires ruthless self-evaluation as she biologically exits the building....

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MotherQuest : The Soul Landscape of Fearless Aliveness

By Lhamo | Sep 27, 2018 |

You have just stepped into the sacred soul landscape of endings and beginnings; your soul is now ready to show you that a new cycle is about to start. Arriving here means you have just crossed a precipice. It is time you let go of your need for control and instead open to your soul blueprint of being radically alive. We know how hard you try to keep your life in order. We know the courage your everyday life requires you to face. We also know the vulnerability you hide from just about everyone and how hard you try to...

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MotherQuest : The Soul Landscape of Mothering Presence

By Lhamo | Sep 11, 2018 |

In between the stretch and demands of Mothering your world, there is the gift of this present moment. In between the tug of war demands of tantrums and impossible deadlines, there is still the patient space of This. Present. Moment. Right. Now. You have entered the third landscape of your Mothering Soul and have returned to your inner territory of Mothering Presence. Rest here a while and breathe. Come back to ‘right now’ and be. By arriving here, you are now called to reconnect with three essential ways of being: Firstly, the power of this present moment, secondly, the vastness of your...

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MotherQuest : The Soul Landscape of Loving Self Kindness

By Lhamo | Sep 5, 2018 |

We know you are tired. We know your load is challenging. We know that too often life feels too hard to bear. Our wish is to wrap you in the softest of blankets and gently rub away your cares. You have stepped into the second sacred landscape of your Mothering Soul, the terrain of Loving Kindness and it is time to return your heart and body to a place of gentleness, innocence and repair. Your soul is calling for you to live your life filled with a greater level of tenderness, self-kindness and embodied self-care. You have arrived into this...

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MotherQuest : The Soul Landscape of Ancestresscy

By Lhamo | Aug 28, 2018 |

Your Ancestresses are calling you. The ancient voices of your foremothers, the women of your blood and bones are whispering your name. Reaching out through the ethers, rising up from your cells, your soul mothers are joining their love in a circle around you, reminding you, that you are always held within their embrace of belonging.   No matter how you feel or how your world currently appears, you are not alone.   In MotherQuest, the terrain of Ancestresscy is the first landscape of your Mothering Soul. By arriving here your journey of self-authentication has started. You now know it is time that you lived congruently, inside and out, in alignment with who your soul knows you to be. No more silence....

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Eventually all women will be called to their MotherQuest

By Lhamo | Aug 20, 2018 |

Your MotherQuest is not the process of becoming a mother, or not being able to become a mother, or losing a baby, or having to give one away.  It’s not the struggle of birthing a baby, of trying to integrate life with a newborn, or experiencing post-natal depression or experiencing incredible joy and not being able to share it.  It is not the exhaustion of midlife burnout, sacrifices between work and family, the challenges of your health, or the struggles in your relationships. Your MotherQuest is not the horror of having to make life-changing or saving decisions for your children, having to grieve the death of a partner or experiencing betrayal. It’s also not having to nurse your parents...

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How do you honour your Ancestors without
cultural appropriation?

By Lhamo | Jul 12, 2018 |

How do you honour your ancestors in your women’s circles? Do you call their heartbeat through your medicine drum? If so, whose lineage was your drum maker trained in and are the animal skins indigenous to your ancestral lands? Do you chant a mantra? If so, is your mantra Hindi, Sikh or Buddhist, do you honour their traditions? Or does your chant come from your ancestral lands, if so what Tribe and culture? Do you take drugs in shamanic ritual? If so who is your teacher’s teacher? What lineage do you honour when you call your shaman’s name?   Or...

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5 Practices to Connect to Your Divine Feminine

By Lhamo | Jul 9, 2018 |

Connecting to your Divine Feminine is not always acknowledged part of mundane life, in fact, theevery day, especially in our mothering years seems to chip away our connection to our spiritual power. This is largely because we have lost the archetype and the mindset that our everyday womanly selves, our mothering and our souls – are already Divine. It’s time we claimed that back, isn’t it? Being connected or embodying our Divine Feminine, which is what Sacred Feminine means gives us presence and guides us into pleasure, fulfilment, creativity, bliss and a meaning-rich life. So what are some ways to...

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Bee Experience

An experience I would like to share… I found a bee

By Lhamo | Jul 8, 2018 |

This weekend I had an experience I would like to share, it really got me thinking and I trust you can see it too. “We need sugar! Or water! Or possibly a flower!” These were the first things running through my head when quite unexpectedly I found a bee on my beach walk this Saturday. Actually, I wasn’t too sure exactly what this tiny, clearly exhausted and very determined honey bee needed, but one thing for sure was, she was far away from her ideal environment. We kicked into ambulance mode, raced back home. Now, whoever said bees need sugar-water lied. She...

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Why is sacred sisterhood different to friendship?

By Lhamo | Jul 2, 2018 |

Our female friendships are everything. Filled with tears and laughter, never-ending phone calls, the excitement of milestones and the sharing of loss, there is no taking away from the importance of our female friends. They buoy us, lift us up and support us through everyday life. For most of us, our female friendships fill our lives with meaning and also keep us grounded. So when I thought about why sacred sisterhood is different from friendship, I’m not saying they are better, just different. Sacred sisterhood is like a calling. A sacred blueprint or matrix of how to be authentic, unveiled...

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Mother Daughter Soul Contracts : Part 1

By Lhamo | Apr 17, 2018 |

Every child is born with a soul contract with her mother. She has a gift or teaching to give her mother, soul to soul. Some soul gifts are easy for the mother to receive they could be opening to love, stepping into power, trusting her value, sharing her wisdom. Other contracts feel like pulling teeth, almost like our babe has exactly the right medicine, just by being herself, to push us to the edges of who we know ourselves to be. Her strong will pushes us to grow a backbone. Her clinginess pushes us to look at our own collapsed...

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Mother Daughter Soul Contracts : Part 2

By Lhamo | Apr 16, 2018 |

Of all the hurts a daughter can suffer from her mother there are two that cut the deepest. The first is the betrayal of not being seen. Not being loved, appreciated or seen for our authenticity or uniqueness can be excruciating. It is a painful awakening for a daughter to realise that to be true to herself she has to leave her family. This fight between belonging and selfhood, autonomy and acceptance, stability and self-freedom can then become a dichotomy that a daughter lives with long after her vulnerable self left home. This pattern of stay and conform or leave...

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Awakening your Key to Sacred Sisterhood

By Lhamo | Jan 29, 2018 |

Many years ago I was attending a Women’s Rite’s Retreat with the sublime Anna Davidovich and in a throwaway comment, she gifted me with one of the most profound teachings I have ever received.   Her simple sentence changed my life.   While the words she said are not exactly the words, I’m about to give you now, the simplicity and power of this sentence has the capacity to awaken one of the most profound blueprints of your soul. I kid you not.   But before I tell you what she said I have to let you know that the...

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Three reasons why I charge for my women’s circles and why you can too.

By Lhamo | Jan 24, 2018 |

Before I start, I’d like to say it takes courage to hold a women’s circle. Any woman who is has heard her Spirit given call and is clear about her desire to be with women in circle and says “yes I am going to hold a women’s circle and learn and share and heal and grow” – is brave. Any woman has been to the depth of her soul wounds and not only survived but has healed and created a wisdom path in the process and then says “This is me. This is what I know, come learn with me.“...

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The big test for spiritual people

By Lhamo | Sep 22, 2017 |

  It really is easy to appear spiritual on Facebook.    It’s even easier on Instagram.   A few beautiful photos, some great quotes, a strategic comment, a smattering of crystals, flowers or essential oils and voila! there’s your brand.   Don’t worry, I’m not judging. I’m doing it too.   The harder thing, if not the hardest thing to do, is to stay your spiritual self when you are around your family.   Especially, when your authentic voice happens to speak a language of beliefs, opinions or lifestyle choices that conflict or oppose your family values or culture. This...

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How Ancestresscy was created

By Lhamo | Aug 24, 2017 |

GIFTED TO ME BY MY GREAT GRANDMOTHER IN A DREAM A WEEK BEFORE MY REDHAIRED DAUGHTER WAS BORN, I was heavily, very heavily, pregnant, and it was a balmy Sunday afternoon in late November 2006. I was hot and also more than ready to birth. So I did the best labor prep I could do – I laid down to nap. She was beautiful and so completely real. She walked into my bedroom dressed in her late 1800’s clothing and came over to where I was lying on my bed. She, was Ethel Nellie Johnson, the mother of my Grandmother....

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Tyranny of shiny. Dropping the masks in your women’s circle

By Lhamo | Aug 21, 2017 |

The music is on. You’ve smudged the room and reverently (if not slightly excitedly) your women have settled themselves in the room. You breathe in, you open your eyes and catch their expectant gazes. “Welcome” you say with reverent tones. Feeling your body soften and voice deepen, you are about to launch into your mystical opening of sacred space then BANG! That one late woman has just tripped on the cat at the front step and her glass water bottle has shattered all over the porch. Now due to an ensuing litany of f-bombs (she is one of your tribe after all)...

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She in the Centre. How do you call in the Sacred in your women’s circle?

By Lhamo | Aug 21, 2017 |

I’m about to admit something that isn’t exactly PC when it comes to women’s circles, I fully own that it has a little to do with my shadow gremlin of cynicism and a lot to do with experiencing a multitude of things called sacred women’s business. But before I make my grand confession, I want to know, how do you call the sacred into your women’s circles? Which tradition do you follow? Do you open your circle space with a Wiccan protocol? Or are you following your teacher’s way, if so, what is his or her lineage of wisdom? Is it...

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